The Decision That Changed Everything: Learning to Say “No” Without Guilt

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Describe a decision you made in the past that helped you learn or grow.

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It wasn’t dramatic. No music swelled in the background. No inspirational montage played as I stared off into the horizon with newfound resolve.

It was just a quiet Tuesday.

Someone asked for a favor. The kind of favor I used to say yes to automatically—without considering my energy, my schedule, or, let’s be honest, my sanity. I would have said yes out of obligation, out of habit, out of the strange belief that a woman’s worth is directly tied to how much she can juggle without visibly dropping anything. (Spoiler alert: We all drop things. The trick is learning what to let hit the floor.)

But this time… I paused.

I didn’t reflexively agree. I didn’t contort myself into a pretzel of accommodation. I took a deep breath and replied, “I wish I could, but I need to prioritize my own time right now.”

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And just like that, a revolution started inside me.

The Guilt Didn’t Vanish Overnight (But It Eventually Shut Up)

That first “no” felt so foreign it practically tasted like soap. I expected backlash, resentment, maybe even a little inner collapse. Instead, there was… silence. Then life went on. And I felt just a little lighter.

That tiny boundary, that single “no,” became the cornerstone of a new chapter. I learned that protecting your energy doesn’t make you selfish—it makes you sustainable. That when we say yes to everything, we’re actually saying no to ourselves.

And that’s a dangerous habit to keep.

Growth Doesn’t Always Look Like Hustle

Here’s what that one decision taught me:

• Saying “no” doesn’t make you mean. It makes you mindful.
• You can be kind and still have boundaries.
• You don’t have to earn rest.
• And the people who respect your “no” are the ones worthy of your “yes.”

This shift was pivotal in launching Voguegenics. I had to say no to burnout, no to people-pleasing, and no to outdated beliefs about what women should be doing with their time. Only then could I start saying yes to what actually mattered—to the vision I wanted to build, the life I wanted to live, and the glow I wanted to share with others.

TL;DR: Your Glow-Up Might Start With a Simple “No”

It’s funny how one of the smallest words in the English language carries the most power. If you’ve been waiting for permission to protect your peace, here it is:

No is a full sentence. Use it generously.

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Dorey Duncan Scott Senior Litigation Paralegal

Hi! I’m Dorey Duncan Scott, a mother of three, wife and fashion entrepreneur. I started my career in fashion back in the early 90’s when I did print, still and runway modeling. I studied Fashion Merchandising, Music Business and Marketing, while also obtaining certificates in such industry-necessary areas such as make-up, styling and runway choreography. In addition, I had work as a spokesmodel for several brands, appearing in print and in person. As a former model, turned senior litigation paralegal, artist manager and on-air personality with a passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development, I bring a unique combination of style, strategic thinking, and legal expertise to my work. My years navigating the legal world have sharpened my attention to detail, while my experience and passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development drives my desire to help others feel empowered and help them in their journey toward self-empowerment. My experience in the fashion world has taught me the power of confidence. 

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