Part 4: Protecting the Glow

How to Hold Onto Your Healing When the World Still Wants the Old You

Breaking the curse is powerful.
But keeping it broken? That’s sacred.

There’s a quiet moment after every breakthrough—after the letter’s been burned, the cord cut, the pattern interrupted—where the world starts whispering:
“Come back. Be who you were. That was easier for us.”

And that’s when the real work begins.
Because healing isn’t a single ceremony—it’s a new way of living. One you’ll have to defend when triggers return dressed as love, guilt arrives sounding like loyalty, and peace starts to feel… unfamiliar.

This post is your roadmap for what comes after the breakthrough.
Because you don’t just need courage to heal—you need strategy to stay healed.

Why Healing Doesn’t Always Feel Peaceful

No one tells you how jarring it is to be free after a lifetime of survival.

You don’t always feel lighter. You often feel… disoriented. You’ve trained your nervous system to respond to chaos. Now you’re asking it to rest in stillness. That shift doesn’t happen overnight.

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You may feel tempted to:

• Re-engage with old dynamics “just this once”
• Water down your boundaries to “keep the peace”
• Doubt your growth because others don’t acknowledge it

But growth isn’t about who claps. It’s about who you no longer have to be to feel safe.

The Integration Window

Every breakthrough is followed by an integration window—the vulnerable period where your old self fights to reclaim space.

“You’ve changed,” they say.
You have. And that’s the point.

This is when old patterns test your glow:

• The guilt trip from a parent who’s used to access, not boundaries
• A partner wondering why you’re “being difficult” all of a sudden
• That reflexive urge to say “yes” when your entire body says “no”

This window is not backsliding.
It’s your chance to anchor the new identity you’ve chosen.

Five Ways to Protect the Glow

1. Recognize the Re-entry Spiral

You’ve made changes. But the world around you hasn’t caught up. That friction? It’s not failure. It’s growth’s aftershock.

Tip: Give yourself grace and space after big energetic shifts. Re-enter gently.

2. Create Rituals of Reinforcement

Healing sticks better when it’s honored.

• Light a candle each week and say your current truth aloud
• Revisit a journal entry from the day you said, “No more.”
• Take a moment to silently affirm, “This is who I am now.”

Download the Curse-Breaker’s Journal for weekly ritual prompts and check-ins.

3. Strengthen Emotional & Energetic Boundaries

This isn’t about cutting people out—it’s about managing what gets access to your inner world.

If someone:

• Doubts your growth
• Requires the unhealed version of you to feel in control
• Punishes your peace with silence or shaming…

That’s not support. That’s sabotage.

“If it costs you your clarity, it’s too expensive.”

4. Build a Safe Circle—And Leave Unsafe Ones

Growth needs community. Not just followers—mirrors. People who reflect back the healed version of you and hold space for your continued evolution.

You don’t need to explain your healing to anyone who’s committed to misunderstanding you.

Join the Voguegenics Community—a private, ad-free space to stay rooted.

5. Forgive Yourself for Flickers

There will be moments you react like the old you.
Moments you apologize too fast.
Moments you forget what you promised yourself.

That’s not failure. That’s flicker.

The glow is still there. Hold it gently—and begin again.

Story Break: When the Glow Gets Tested

You journal through a deep moon ritual, cry harder than you expected, and feel a wave of release. You sleep well for the first time in weeks.

Three days later, your mom calls.
“You’re acting different lately. You used to be more thoughtful.”

You freeze. Your gut flips. The pull to shrink back into the peacekeeper surges like muscle memory.

This is where the real work lives.
Not in the ritual—but in the response.

You take a breath.
And say, “I’m being thoughtful to myself now, too.”

And that, right there, is glow protection in real time.

Where to Go From Here

You didn’t just survive the curse. You walked straight into its core and rewrote the ending.

Now comes the practice.

If you haven’t already, download the Curse-Breaker’s Journal—a companion designed to help you integrate the shifts, protect your peace, and track your healing with intention.

🎁 Download the Journal Here →

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Because breaking the curse is one thing.
Living like it’s broken? That’s where the glow becomes a legacy.

Dorey Duncan Scott Senior Litigation Paralegal

Hi! I’m Dorey Duncan Scott, a mother of three, wife and fashion entrepreneur. I started my career in fashion back in the early 90’s when I did print, still and runway modeling. I studied Fashion Merchandising, Music Business and Marketing, while also obtaining certificates in such industry-necessary areas such as make-up, styling and runway choreography. In addition, I had work as a spokesmodel for several brands, appearing in print and in person. As a former model, turned senior litigation paralegal, artist manager and on-air personality with a passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development, I bring a unique combination of style, strategic thinking, and legal expertise to my work. My years navigating the legal world have sharpened my attention to detail, while my experience and passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development drives my desire to help others feel empowered and help them in their journey toward self-empowerment. My experience in the fashion world has taught me the power of confidence. 

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