The Art of Cord Cutting: How to Release, Reclaim, and Rise

There are people you stop talking to, but somehow… they never quite leave.
You block their number, avoid their feed, move cities — and still feel the ghost of them in your nervous system.
It’s not just exes.
It’s the friend who betrayed you.
The parent who could never love you the way you needed.
The past version of yourself you no longer recognize.

Cord cutting isn’t about revenge. It’s about release.
It’s not witchy theatrics — it’s nervous system hygiene.
An energetic boundary that says:
I choose to be whole, even if you never gave me closure.

This isn’t for the faint of heart.
But if you’re tired of reliving pain that should’ve ended long ago, this ritual might just be the emotional exorcism your soul’s been asking for.

🧵 SECTION 1: What Are Energetic Cords?

Every time we form a meaningful emotional connection, we create energetic cords.
Think of them like invisible threads — spun through intimacy, emotion, time, and impact.
Some cords are nourishing.
Others? Not so much.

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Unhealthy energetic cords can form through:

• Toxic relationships (romantic, platonic, or familial)
• Power imbalances
• Emotional trauma or unresolved wounds
• Obsessive thinking or one-sided attachment

These cords don’t care about logic. They’re emotional.
That’s why months (or years) later, something can still feel… off.

⚠️ SECTION 2: How to Know It’s Time to Cut the Cord

Not all connections are meant to be severed. Some just need boundaries or distance.

But here’s how to know when cord cutting is the ritual you need:

• You constantly think about someone — even when you don’t want to
• You replay conversations or arguments on loop in your mind
• Seeing them (even online) triggers panic, guilt, anger, or shame
• You feel energetically drained, stuck, or “off” after thinking about them
• You’ve tried talking, closure, forgiveness — and nothing changes

Cord cutting isn’t the same as forgetting.
It’s about neutralizing the charge.
Sealing the leak.
Choosing freedom over lingering pain.

✨ SECTION 3: How Cord Cutting Actually Works

Let’s be clear: cord cutting isn’t about hexes, curses, or hating someone into oblivion.
It’s not even really about them.

It’s about you—choosing to stop leaking your energy into a connection that’s already dead.

Energetic cords are emotion-based.
You can block their number, avoid them for years, and still carry an energetic thread if:

• You’re holding unresolved grief, shame, guilt, or anger
• You’re still wishing they would say what you needed to hear
• You never fully released your role in that story

Cord cutting works by shifting the charge.
The ritual gives your subconscious permission to release the emotional residue.
It clears the psychic inbox. And no — you don’t need their participation.

It doesn’t mean you didn’t love them.
It means you love yourself more now.

🔥 SECTION 4: The Ritual – How to Cut the Cord

This is a simplified version of what could easily become your monthly glow-up ritual.
You can do it during a full moon, after a breakup, post-fight, or when you just feel off and know it’s time to let something go.

YOU’LL NEED:

• A quiet space where you won’t be interrupted
• A candle (black, white, or pink all work)
• A journal or paper
• Scissors and string or ribbon (optional, but powerful)
• Optional crystals: black tourmaline, obsidian, rose quartz

🕯️ Step 1: Set the Space

Light your candle. Sit comfortably.
Visualize a cord connecting you to this person or energy. Where does it go in your body? Where does it feel tight, hot, or painful?

Say out loud:

“I am safe. I am ready to release this energy with love and finality.”

✍️ Step 2: Write the Release

In your journal, complete this sentence:

• “The energy I’m releasing is…”
• “What I learned from this is…”
• “I no longer choose to carry…”

This is not for them. It’s for your nervous system.

✂️ Step 3: Cut the Cord

Hold the string or ribbon and visualize it as the energetic tie. Say:

“With love and clarity, I release this connection.
I cut the energetic cord between us.
I call my energy back to me now.”

Then physically cut the string.
(If you’re not using a string, swipe your hands downward and outward with intention, like you’re wiping it away.)

🔮 Step 4: Close It

Blow out the candle.
Say: “It is done.”
Breathe deeply. Drink water.
Take a shower or bath. Burn the paper later if you want to ritualize the final release.

🌙 SECTION 5: After the Cut

You might feel lighter.
You might feel like crying.
You might feel… nothing at first.

That’s normal.
Sometimes the release is immediate.
Other times, it’s subtle—like waking up one day and realizing you haven’t thought about them in weeks.

After cord cutting, you may notice:

• You sleep better
• You stop obsessively checking their social
• Your chest feels less tight
• You remember something they said and don’t feel the sting
• You finally feel like yourself again

That’s what this ritual is about.
Not revenge. Not deleting the past.
Reclaiming your energy. Restoring your emotional sovereignty.

And when you feel that shift?
Don’t question it.
Just say: Thank you, and goodbye.

🔗 Final Reflection

Cord cutting isn’t a magic fix.
But it is a line in the sand.
A sacred reminder that even if you weren’t given closure—you can give it to yourself.

You are allowed to heal without permission.
You are allowed to say:
“This ends here. With me. For good.”

💌 BONUS: Want the Ritual Written Out?

We’ve created a free, printable Cord Cutting Ritual Page you can keep in your journal or ritual kit.
So next time someone leaves a mess in your energy field, you’ll know exactly what to do.

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Dorey Duncan Scott Senior Litigation Paralegal

Hi! I’m Dorey Duncan Scott, a mother of three, wife and fashion entrepreneur. I started my career in fashion back in the early 90’s when I did print, still and runway modeling. I studied Fashion Merchandising, Music Business and Marketing, while also obtaining certificates in such industry-necessary areas such as make-up, styling and runway choreography. In addition, I had work as a spokesmodel for several brands, appearing in print and in person. As a former model, turned senior litigation paralegal, artist manager and on-air personality with a passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development, I bring a unique combination of style, strategic thinking, and legal expertise to my work. My years navigating the legal world have sharpened my attention to detail, while my experience and passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development drives my desire to help others feel empowered and help them in their journey toward self-empowerment. My experience in the fashion world has taught me the power of confidence. 

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