The Closure Letter: What They’ll Never Read (But You’ll Write Anyway)

This isn’t formal. It isn’t polite. It’s not even necessarily structured.
But if you need a ritual to help shape it, here’s how:

1. Create Intentional Space

Light a candle. Turn on music. Give your grief or anger a container to safely land.
You’re not doing this to spiral—you’re doing this to empty.

2. Start With the Rawest Truth

“What I never said was…”
“What still hurts is…”
“I deserved better when…”

There’s no right way. Just begin.

3. Be Unedited

Don’t pretty it up. Don’t write like they’ll read it.
You’re not writing for approval. You’re writing for release.

4. Close It For Yourself

End with a declaration to yourself:

“I’m not waiting for closure anymore. I’m giving it to myself.”

Then choose how you want to end it.
Burn it. Save it. Tear it into pieces. Read it aloud.
Whatever makes it feel finished.

✍️ Optional Journal Prompts for Deeper Release

• What part of this story still lives in my body?
• What did I wish they’d said?
• What do I finally need to say—even if it’s only to myself?
• How has holding this changed me?
• Who do I get to be after I let this go?

Why This Is Nervous System Hygiene™

Unspoken words live in the body.
And when they have nowhere to go, they turn into tension, sleeplessness, irritability, and emotional weight.

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The Closure Letter is how we complete the loop.
Not because they said sorry.
Not because they finally got it.
But because you did.

You don’t need a reply to find peace.
You need a release.

And today, your nervous system gets one.

🔗 Link this ritual with:

• Rage Purging for the Polite Girl for emotional excavation
• The Sleep Cleanse for recovery and restoration
• Explore the Nervous System Hygiene™ Series to complete your glow-down toolkit

Dorey Duncan Scott Senior Litigation Paralegal

Hi! I’m Dorey Duncan Scott, a mother of three, wife and fashion entrepreneur. I started my career in fashion back in the early 90’s when I did print, still and runway modeling. I studied Fashion Merchandising, Music Business and Marketing, while also obtaining certificates in such industry-necessary areas such as make-up, styling and runway choreography. In addition, I had work as a spokesmodel for several brands, appearing in print and in person. As a former model, turned senior litigation paralegal, artist manager and on-air personality with a passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development, I bring a unique combination of style, strategic thinking, and legal expertise to my work. My years navigating the legal world have sharpened my attention to detail, while my experience and passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development drives my desire to help others feel empowered and help them in their journey toward self-empowerment. My experience in the fashion world has taught me the power of confidence. 

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