As the leaves turn golden and the air gets crisp, we’re reminded that the holiday season is right around the corner. But for many women, this transition into fall and the approaching festivities brings a mix of excitement and stress. Between family gatherings, changing routines, and colder days, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed.

So, if the idea of the holidays has you reaching for an extra pumpkin spice latte (or wine, no judgment), let’s dive into some self-help tips to get you in the right mindset—ready to embrace the season with calm, confidence, and joy!


1. Acknowledge the Shift: Seasonal Changes Impact Your Mood

The shorter days and cooler weather can mess with your natural rhythm. You may feel more tired or even experience seasonal affective disorder (SAD), which is totally normal. So, before you power through your holiday to-do list, recognize that you may need more rest, comfort, and mental care.

Self-Help Tip: Make it a habit to check in with yourself regularly. Ask, “How am I feeling today?” If you’re more fatigued or anxious, that’s okay! Allow yourself to rest more, take warm baths, light candles, and make peace with the season instead of fighting it.


2. Manage Holiday Expectations: It Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect

Women are often burdened with the expectation of making the holidays “perfect”—the ideal meal, the flawless décor, the ultimate family time. But chasing perfection can lead to burnout faster than you can say “Black Friday.”

Self-Help Tip: It’s okay if the turkey isn’t Instagram-worthy or if you forget to send holiday cards. Focus on what’s truly important to you this season. Write down your non-negotiables—things you actually want to prioritize, like family connection or creating a cozy home. Let go of everything else!


3. Prioritize Your Mental Health: Create Boundaries

The holiday season often brings extra obligations—family dinners, office parties, gift exchanges—and it’s easy to overcommit. But remember, saying “no” is a form of self-care.

Self-Help Tip: Set clear boundaries early on. If a gathering feels too overwhelming, it’s okay to skip it. Focus on what brings you joy, not what others expect of you. Creating boundaries protects your energy and helps you enjoy the season without resentment.


4. Make Self-Care a Non-Negotiable: You Deserve It

With all the holiday hustle, it’s easy to put yourself last. But taking care of your own physical, emotional, and mental health is essential to thriving during the season.

Self-Help Tip: Schedule self-care the way you’d schedule a work meeting. Whether it’s weekly yoga, journaling every morning, or a weekend movie marathon, give yourself permission to rest. This is the time to recharge so you can show up for others (and yourself) without losing your sanity.


5. Stay Mindful: Practice Gratitude and Stay Present

Amid the holiday chaos, it’s easy to let the season rush by in a blur of activities. Practicing mindfulness can help you stay grounded, present, and enjoy each moment fully.

Self-Help Tip: Start a gratitude journal and jot down three things you’re thankful for every day. This simple practice shifts your focus from stress to appreciation. And during hectic moments—whether it’s baking cookies or attending a holiday event—pause, take a deep breath, and savor the experience.


6. Embrace the Season: Find Joy in the Little Things

It’s easy to feel down about the shorter days and chilly weather, but embracing the beauty of fall and winter can make the seasonal change more joyful.

Self-Help Tip: Create a list of seasonal joys you can indulge in, like cozy sweaters, warm drinks, holiday lights, or classic Christmas movies. Make your environment a reflection of the season—light candles, bake fall treats, or create a festive playlist. Small, intentional moments of joy can uplift your spirit.


7. Plan for Family Dynamics: Prepare Mentally

We all have that one family member who can trigger us during the holidays (you know who I’m talking about). Whether it’s the nosy aunt asking about your love life or political debates at the dinner table, it’s best to be prepared.

Self-Help Tip: Set a mental game plan in advance. Decide how you’ll respond to certain topics or how you’ll take a break if things get too tense. Having a strategy lets you enjoy the family time without getting emotionally derailed. And remember: it’s okay to step away or take a breather.


8. Avoid Comparison: Social Media Isn’t Real Life

Instagram and Pinterest can make it feel like everyone else is having a picture-perfect holiday season. But keep in mind that those snapshots don’t show the behind-the-scenes mess. Don’t let comparison steal your joy.

Self-Help Tip: Unfollow accounts that make you feel “less than” and remind yourself that your holiday doesn’t have to look like a Hallmark movie to be meaningful. Focus on your own experience and what makes you happy.


9. Get Organized: Planning Ahead Reduces Stress

Holiday stress often comes from last-minute planning and feeling overwhelmed by everything you need to do. By organizing and planning ahead, you’ll feel more in control.

Self-Help Tip: Make a holiday checklist. Break tasks down into small, manageable pieces (like shopping for gifts, planning meals, decorating, etc.). Tackle one or two things a day rather than trying to do it all at once.


10. Lean on Your Support System: You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

When the holidays get tough, don’t hesitate to lean on your friends and family for support. Whether it’s venting over coffee or asking for help with holiday prep, remember you don’t have to carry it all by yourself.

Self-Help Tip: Reach out to a trusted friend when things feel overwhelming. Sometimes, just talking about your feelings can help lift the burden. And don’t be afraid to delegate tasks—whether it’s asking someone to bring dessert to dinner or sharing holiday shopping duties, teamwork makes the dream work!


As the holidays approach and the season shifts, it’s important to take care of your mental and emotional well-being. By setting boundaries, practicing gratitude, and leaning into self-care, you can embrace the season without feeling overwhelmed.

This year, give yourself the gift of balance—because you deserve to enjoy the holidays without the stress. So grab your hot cocoa, light a cozy candle, and let’s make this holiday season one filled with joy, presence, and most importantly—self-love. 🎄💫

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Dorey Duncan Scott Senior Litigation Paralegal
Hi! I’m Dorey Duncan Scott, a mother of three, wife and fashion entrepreneur. I started my career in fashion back in the early 90’s when I did print, still and runway modeling. I studied Fashion Merchandising, Music Business and Marketing, while also obtaining certificates in such industry-necessary areas such as make-up, styling and runway choreography. In addition, I had work as a spokesmodel for several brands, appearing in print and in person. As a former model, turned senior litigation paralegal, artist manager and on-air personality with a passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development, I bring a unique combination of style, strategic thinking, and legal expertise to my work. My years navigating the legal world have sharpened my attention to detail, while my experience and passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development drives my desire to help others feel empowered and help them in their journey toward self-empowerment. My experience in the fashion world has taught me the power of confidence. 
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