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The Moon and the Meltdown: Why Every Crisis Feels Bigger at Night

The post explores how emotions are intensified by the moon's phases, particularly at night. During the full moon, feelings peak, leading to existential crises, while the new moon brings subtle unrest. The author emphasizes the importance of acknowledging these feelings, suggesting rituals to cope and encouraging readers to track their emotional responses to lunar cycles.

You know the moment.

It’s 11:42 PM, the dishes are still in the sink, someone sent a text that didn’t feel quite right, and suddenlyβ€”you’re spiraling.


Is it hormones? Exhaustion? A spiritual crisis? The algorithm?

…Or is it the moon?

Because if I’ve learned anything from my late-night catastrophes, it’s this: emotions don’t just intensify at nightβ€”they magnify under moonlight. And no one warns you that a celestial rock floating 238,855 miles away might become the most toxic relationship in your life.

🌘 Why It Hits Harder at Night

During the day, you’re:

  • Sending emails like a boss
  • Scheduling dentist appointments for people who don’t even floss
  • Forcing a smile in Zoom calls while your soul quietly expires

But at night?
That’s when the world stops asking for thingsβ€”and your brain starts demanding answers.

Suddenly, you’re not just tired. You’re reviewing every choice you’ve ever made since birth like your own personal FBI agent.

β€œWhy did I say that in 2007?”
β€œShould I break up with my career?”
β€œDo people actually like me or am I just convenient?”

By 1:00 AM, you’ve either:

  • Completely reinvented your identity
  • Bookmarked five spiritual retreats
  • Started crying because a Pinterest quote reminded you of your ex, your dead goldfish, and your eighth-grade trauma

And all of it feels hugeβ€”because it is. But also because the moon is whispering things you were too distracted to hear in daylight.

But at night?
The world quiets. Our minds don’t.
And that’s when the moon glows like an emotional highlighterβ€”dragging every ignored thought back into the spotlight.

πŸ’­ β€œDid I say too much?”
πŸ’­ β€œShould I start over?”
πŸ’­ β€œWhat if I fail… again?”
πŸ’­ β€œIs it the moon or am I just dramatic?”

(It’s both.)

πŸŒ• The Full Moon: Drama Queen Energy

Let’s talk about her. Oh, she’s not subtle.


The full moon doesn’t whisper. She shines. And when she’s up, everything else in your life rises tooβ€”water retention, unresolved feelings, and the urge to cut bangs at 2 a.m.

She’s like that one friend who shows up overdressed, emotionally unfiltered, and completely unapologetic.

She brings:

  • The climax of your emotional subplot
  • Uninvited breakthroughs
  • Sudden urges to rearrange your life and living room at 2:00 AM

Full moons have this electric tensionβ€”something between a panic attack and a power surge.

One minute you’re scrubbing your bathtub with precision. The next, you’re weeping because the moon looks too beautiful and your life doesn’t.

Biologically, some studies show that melatonin (the sleep hormone) dips during full moons. Emotionally? It’s when our brains throw a glitter bomb at our coping mechanisms and go, β€œGood luck, babe.”

That’s why it’s not just you crying over a broken nail or a sudden existential crisis. It’s lunar math.

And you know better.

You know you’re hormonal. You know you didn’t sleep. You know that you probably shouldn’t make any major decisions right now.


But you also feel like you’re on the brink of something cosmic, and it’s making your entire nervous system vibrate.

β€œAm I just tired… or is this a spiritual emergency?”

(It’s both. Again.)

πŸŒ‘ The New Moon: Quiet Breakdown Season

On the other end of the cycle, the new moon is basically ✨ghosting✨ your emotions. If the full moon is dramatic, the new moon is emotionally… weird.

She’s subtle. Still. Suspiciously quiet.

You’re not cryingβ€”yetβ€”but you’re also not okay.
You just feel… off. Unsettled. Like something’s about to break open but hasn’t yet. You clean out drawers. You stop replying to people. You become very interested in re-evaluating your entire identity while your houseplants silently judge you.

There’s no light. No clarity. Just a strange restlessness like something is about to happen… but hasn’t yet.
Perfect time for:

  • Questioning all your decisions
  • Starting five new journals
  • Cleaning your closet while crying softly to Lana Del Rey

It’s the soul version of putting on sweatpants and pacing the house with a trash bag, unsure if you’re decluttering your stuff or your entire belief system.

New moon energy is the kind that convinces you it’s time to:

  • Start a new business
  • Delete everything you’ve ever posted
  • Text an ex for β€œclosure” (don’t do it, babeβ€”just make tea instead)

Just. Make. Tea.

πŸ§˜β€β™€οΈ Why the Moon Isn’t the Problem (But Also Kind of Is)

Here’s the deal:
The moon isn’t malicious. She’s just really, really good at showing you what you’ve been ignoring.

She doesn’t create the messβ€”she lights it up.
She doesn’t bring the emotionβ€”she lifts the veil on the ones you’ve shoved down beneath grocery lists and β€œI’m fine” texts.

So when you find yourself spiraling at 12:17 AM on a Thursday, crying over something you swore you were overβ€”blame the moon, but also thank her.
Because that meltdown? That might be the first time all week you were honest with yourself.

πŸ•―οΈ My Glamorous Moon Meltdown Ritual (AKA Voguegenics After Dark)

If I’m going to emotionally collapse, I’m doing it like a woman who owns candleholders that match her trauma.

Here’s my go-to late-night ritual when the moon has me spiraling:

  • ✨ Light one candle. (Or seven. I’m not here to judge minimalism.)
  • πŸ–‹οΈ Journal everything, including the messy stuff. Especially the stuff that starts with β€œI know this is irrational but…”
  • 🎧 Make a playlist that matches the mood. Think: Florence Welch meets a forest witch in her healing era.
  • 🧴 Put something nourishing on your skinβ€”oil, lotion, tears. It all counts.
  • β˜• Warm drink. Tea, moon milk, or a ritual latte that makes you feel alive.

Then I sit. I breathe. I sometimes sob into my robe. And I remind myself:

β€œThis too shall pass. Probably by sunrise. But for now, I’m allowed to unravel.”

πŸ§˜β€β™€οΈ So What Do We Do About It?

You don’t have to start howling at the moon (unless you want toβ€”no judgment), but you can start noticing when you’re more likely to unravel.

Try this:

  • Track your emotions for a couple of cycles
  • Use my Moon Sanity Tracker to see if your feelings sync with lunar shifts
  • Give yourself grace. Full moon meltdowns happen to powerful people, too (and by β€œpowerful” I mean β€œme with a face mask and wine at midnight”)
  • Light one candle (for ambiance and dramatic effect)
  • Grab a journal and let it rip
  • Play music that matches your mood: either ethereal goddesscore or full-blown 2006 emo revival
  • Put something on your skin (oil, mist, moon-charged rose waterβ€”whatever feels like care)

Repeat after me:

β€œThis is temporary. I’m just mooning a little hard tonight.”

πŸŒ” Why It Matters That We Talk About This

Because everyone has done this.
Everyone has cried alone at night wondering if they’re broken. Everyone’s questioned their value when the house is quiet and the sky is loud.

And yetβ€”we rarely talk about it. We act like breakdowns are embarrassing. Like we should be stronger. Calmer. Less β€œaffected.”

But I don’t want to be less affected.
I want to be real. Messy. Honest.
And if the moon brings me to that placeβ€”maybe she’s not my enemy. Maybe she’s my mirror.

πŸŒ€ Try This: Moon Sanity Tracker

If any of this resonates (and let’s be honestβ€”it probably does), start tracking your breakdowns. Not in a β€œcontrol freak” way, but in a β€œlook at me understanding myself” kind of way.

You can download my Moon Sanity Tracker and start syncing your emotional spirals with the lunar calendar.

It’s strangely satisfying. Like discovering your chaos has a patternβ€”and therefore, a little bit of power.

πŸŒ” Lastly…

The moon isn’t out to get usβ€”but she’s definitely out to reveal us.

If you’ve ever fallen apart at night and thought, β€œWhy does everything feel worse right now?” β€”you’re not broken. You’re just synced. Emotionally lunar. Divinely dramatic.

And honestly? That kind of glow-up isn’t just validβ€”it’s cosmic.

πŸ’¬ Let Me Know:

  • Do you unravel at the full moon?
  • Do you get weirdly still and detached at the new moon?
  • Or are you living your best witchy life and already know all your moon moods?

Leave a comment. Or don’t.
Light a candle. Or scream into your pillow.

Either way, just know this:


You are not the only one crying at midnight.
And you are not crazy.
You are just lunar.


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Dorey Duncan Scott Senior Litigation Paralegal
Hi! I’m Dorey Duncan Scott, a mother of three, wife and fashion entrepreneur. I started my career in fashion back in the early 90’s when I did print, still and runway modeling. I studied Fashion Merchandising, Music Business and Marketing, while also obtaining certificates in such industry-necessary areas such as make-up, styling and runway choreography. In addition, I had work as a spokesmodel for several brands, appearing in print and in person. As a former model, turned senior litigation paralegal, artist manager and on-air personality with a passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development, I bring a unique combination of style, strategic thinking, and legal expertise to my work. My years navigating the legal world have sharpened my attention to detail, while my experience and passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development drives my desire to help others feel empowered and help them in their journey toward self-empowerment. My experience in the fashion world has taught me the power of confidence.Β 

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