The Ultimate “Friend Code” for Modern Women – Old School Edition

Dear Younger Ladies,

It’s time we sit down and have a serious talk—because I’m seeing way too many girls go missing, get into dangerous situations, or worse. And no, this isn’t just an excuse for me to lecture y’all about the “good old days” (though those were amazing). I’m here to drop some life-saving wisdom on you: The Friend Code.

This isn’t just a cute little list of rules—it’s the difference between making it home safely and becoming a Netflix true crime documentary. So buckle up, buttercups, because I’m about to take you to Old School Survival 101.

Let’s break it down:

Code #1: We Roll Together, We Leave Together

No exceptions. If we came together, we’re leaving together. Ain’t nobody leaving with some random dude who just bought you a vodka soda. I don’t care if you swear he’s a “good guy.” Sis, no! If I’m with you, you’re not about to get side-eyed by someone’s sketchy Tinder date while I Uber home alone. Oh, and you’re not catching me at IHOP at 2 a.m. wondering where you went. We roll together, we come back together. Period.

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Code #2: The Drunk Friend Dilemma

Look, I get it. Life is stressful, and sometimes that tequila just hits different. But only one of us is allowed to get sht faced* at a time, and preferably neither of us should! At least one of us has to have enough brain cells left to call an Uber, spot the creeps, and remember where we parked. Be the responsible drunk, ladies! Somebody’s gotta be sober-ish.

Code #3: The Group Bathroom Rule

If you have to pee, we all have to pee. If you’re going outside to “get some air,” guess what? WE’RE ALL GOING OUTSIDE TO GET SOME AIR! We are a unit. A squad. A sisterhood of synchronized bladders. It’s not just for bonding, it’s survival. No friend is left behind when it’s bathroom break time!

Code #4: Watch the Bartender

Unless you’re personally watching the bartender pour your drink, it’s a NO from me. I don’t care how charming that guy with the man-bun seems. Ladies, date-rape drugs aren’t some TV drama—they’re real. If someone offers you a drink, you best pull a “Hey, let’s go get it together.” And if they say no? BIG RED FLAG. You’re not here for the free drinks, you’re here for a good time—and a safe one.

Code #5: The Party Curfew

If I see you wobbling, slurring, or about to confess your undying love to someone you’ve known for 17 minutes, we’re leaving. This night is over. I’ll drag your drunk butt out of the club if I have to. You can hate me later for being the fun police, but guess what? At least you’ll live to hate me tomorrow. Safety > FOMO every time.

Code #6: Missing Friend Protocol

Look, I give you 15 minutes. Fifteen minutes to “step outside,” flirt, whatever. But after that? I’m calling your mom, your ex, and your job. If I can’t find you in 30 minutes, I’m flipping tables and shutting the whole place down like it’s a scene out of “Taken.” I’m not playing around. You go missing? We’re on DEFCON 1.

Code #7: If You Fight, We Fight

Now, I’m not saying we’re out here trying to be WWE champions, but if it goes down, we’re all in it together. It better be one-on-one, though, because if it’s more than that? Oh honey, we’re all swinging. Hopefully, we keep it classy and avoid the drama. We’re ladies, not brawlers… unless provoked.

Code #8: Check-In or Get a Wake-Up Call

The drop-off rule is sacred. You don’t go to bed until you know your girl made it home safe. If I don’t get that “Home safe, love ya!” text, best believe I’m driving to your house with a megaphone at 3 a.m. If you went MIA on the check-in, I’m assuming the worst, and your entire family is going to hear about it.

Listen Up: The Friend Code is Non-Negotiable

This isn’t just some cute advice your mom might give you. This is survival. This is how we were raised. The Friend Code will save your life, your night, and your friendship. I want every single woman—especially the younger generation—to know these rules inside and out.

If you stick together, watch each other’s backs, and live by the Friend Code, we’re all getting home safely, one girls’ night out at a time.

#FriendCode #GirlsNightOut #SafetyFirst #WomensSafety #SquadGoals #GirlPower #StayTogether #SafeNights

Dorey Duncan Scott Senior Litigation Paralegal

Hi! I’m Dorey Duncan Scott, a mother of three, wife and fashion entrepreneur. I started my career in fashion back in the early 90’s when I did print, still and runway modeling. I studied Fashion Merchandising, Music Business and Marketing, while also obtaining certificates in such industry-necessary areas such as make-up, styling and runway choreography. In addition, I had work as a spokesmodel for several brands, appearing in print and in person. As a former model, turned senior litigation paralegal, artist manager and on-air personality with a passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development, I bring a unique combination of style, strategic thinking, and legal expertise to my work. My years navigating the legal world have sharpened my attention to detail, while my experience and passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development drives my desire to help others feel empowered and help them in their journey toward self-empowerment. My experience in the fashion world has taught me the power of confidence. 

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