You’re Chasing Youth Instead of Owning Your Power—And It’s Making You Invisible

Tell Me If This Sounds Familiar:

✅ You hesitate before sharing your opinions in a room full of younger colleagues.
✅ You catch yourself saying, “I know I’m older, but…” when making a suggestion.
✅ You try to keep up with trends, but it feels forced—like you’re losing yourself in the process.

If you just said YES to any of these, you’re not alone. And this post is for you. 👑

There’s a reason you feel overlooked.

You’re not too old to be seen. You’re just chasing the wrong kind of visibility.

Somewhere along the way, society convinced us that staying relevant means keeping up with every TikTok trend, copying Gen Z’s slang, or pretending we still love crop tops. But the truth? Desperately clinging to youth doesn’t make you more visible—it makes you blend in.

‘Relatable’ Isn’t the Goal—Respected Is

There’s an unspoken pressure to be cool at any age. But when you try too hard to be relatable to a younger audience, you sacrifice something bigger: your authority.

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You become another voice in the sea of trend-chasers rather than the expert, the mentor, the powerhouse who commands attention.

Think about the women who inspire you the most. Are they trying to mimic the latest 22-year-old influencer, or are they owning their lane with such confidence that you have to pay attention?

Respected women don’t follow trends. They set standards.

🚨 Chasing youth doesn’t make you relevant. It makes you replaceable. Owning your power makes you iconic. 🚨

Why This Happens to So Many Women

The beauty industry, social media, and even corporate culture constantly tell women that youth = power.

• It’s why so many women downplay their experience instead of owning it.
• It’s why we see midlife confidence as a rebellion, instead of the default.
• It’s why we start believing that if we aren’t trendy, we’re irrelevant.

But here’s the real truth: The only people who don’t want you to own your power are the ones who benefit from you shrinking.

How Owning Your Power Changes Everything

🔥 In your career: You stop being overlooked for promotions because you’re no longer playing small.
🔥 In your personal brand: Your expertise becomes magnetic—people seek out your voice.
🔥 In your confidence: You walk into rooms knowing you’re a leader, not someone trying to fit in.

The Hidden Power of Owning Your Age

There’s a striking difference between someone who owns their experience and someone who runs from it.

The moment you stop trying to keep up and start leading, everything shifts. You no longer feel the need to prove yourself in spaces that don’t serve you. You become the presence people look to for guidance, wisdom, and unapologetic confidence—the kind that only comes with experience.

You don’t need to be liked by everyone. You need to be listened to.

Instead of Chasing Trends, Do This Instead

Forget hopping on every trending audio or forcing yourself into spaces where your voice gets drowned out. Instead, create a signature series that showcases your expertise, wisdom, and confidence in a way that’s fresh and uniquely YOU.

For example:

✅ The No-BS Guide to Confidence at 40+ (Yes, this is about to be one of my published book—stay tuned!)
✅ Style Evolution: Dressing with Power, Not Apology
✅ Rewriting the Rules: Thriving in Your Career Beyond 40

When you step into your power and stop apologizing for your age, you don’t just stay relevant—you become indispensable.

Own It. Stop Shrinking. Lead.

The women who make history aren’t the ones trying to fit in. They’re the ones so undeniable in their presence that the world has to adjust to them.

It’s time to stop chasing youth and start embodying your power.

💬 What’s one thing you’ve stopped apologizing for as you’ve grown into your power? Drop it in the comments!

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This isn’t another feel-good pep talk. This is the real playbook for owning your power, elevating your presence, and finally becoming the woman who doesn’t chase trends—she sets them.

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Dorey Duncan Scott Senior Litigation Paralegal

Hi! I’m Dorey Duncan Scott, a mother of three, wife and fashion entrepreneur. I started my career in fashion back in the early 90’s when I did print, still and runway modeling. I studied Fashion Merchandising, Music Business and Marketing, while also obtaining certificates in such industry-necessary areas such as make-up, styling and runway choreography. In addition, I had work as a spokesmodel for several brands, appearing in print and in person. As a former model, turned senior litigation paralegal, artist manager and on-air personality with a passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development, I bring a unique combination of style, strategic thinking, and legal expertise to my work. My years navigating the legal world have sharpened my attention to detail, while my experience and passion for fashion, beauty, and personal development drives my desire to help others feel empowered and help them in their journey toward self-empowerment. My experience in the fashion world has taught me the power of confidence. 

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